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The Magic of Flirting

Posted on July 25, 2021 by Patrick Ulloa

Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a member of the opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick outline on how you should go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your approach.

The Approach

One person approaches the other. They move into closer physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO possibility of initiating contact. You have to approach!

The Signs

The person that has been approached will always signal the other's existence in some way...a sign. This signal isn't like a train whistle, however, more a subtle body language that you can learn how to recognize. By way of instance, he or she simply may look up, move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal with a glancing eye contact.

A display of total obliviousness to the person who is approaching generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Do not be discouraged. But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then it is time to re-group and try again. But let's say the approach works. You have your positive acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk

The Verbal Exchange

The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange about impersonal, unimportant matters like the weather or the scene around them. The key word here is MILD.

This is the classic place for the clever"line," but cleverness isn't required. At this time, a verbal exchange isn't for the purpose of sharing valuable insights about life or determining philosophical compatibility. It's just a vehicle to further the developing contact.

Body Language

Over a time period, a couple that has begun to talk may also begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn toward one another until, if all is goes well, they are fully facing one another. This is your objective.

This step can take minutes or hours... or weeks or months... to attain. However, without this physical reorientation toward one another, not very much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn their back toward you for long intervals! But if they do not...


The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush their hands against one another while reaching for a drink, or the woman might pat the man on the arm in the center of a shared joke. The exchange of very subtle, almost glancing touches may continue for a while, and if all goes well, can escalate into the casual affections shown by couples who are dating. If you have reached this point, then flirting has now become the start of a relationship. The Art of Flirting should always end with the beginning of a relationship. Get out there and flirt.

The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making first contact. You only have one shot at making a great first impression. By following a few of the guidelines we've established in this report, you should now be equipped to locate, approach, and ascertain whether or not your subtle flirting has opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship.